WHY DID YOU TELL EVERYONE ABOUT YOUR WRITING?
YOU SHOULD’VE KEPT IT SECRET!
YOU NEED TO GET A PSEUDONYM, ASAP!
I have a pen name all picked out. Many years ago, when I volunteered at the GLBT bookstore in Vancouver, one of my co-volunteers misunderstood my name Julie as Jubilee when we were introduced.
I was very excited by this miscommunication. JUBILEE! I excitedly responded. That’s awesome!
Isn’t that a great name? Jubilee sounds fun loving and sassy and bright. Jubilee is happy go lucky and doesn’t care what anyone thinks, so there.
But I have not been able to embrace this cool pen name. I have decided to be boringly ‘authentic’ and ‘claim my writing life’ as who I am naturally: Julie Johnson.
Also, I have been so keen to claim my writing identity, I have not been able to shut up about it. Everyone knows. Every one, near and far, in the Twitter-verse and down the road.
This leads to moments of horrible paralysis.
Moments of a very particular writing brain-freeze that is akin to stage fright.
Watch, as I enter the twilight realm of ‘what if’…
What if someone I know reads my finished work. What if, while publicly congratulating me on email, FB and Twitter, they secretly feel it’s terrible, scandalous, badly written and probably half of it is autobiographical…they are trying to work out what parts reveal my dirty secrets…is that Mr. Rutherford character based on a high-school boyfriend, for instance?
The worst will be people I interact with face to face. There we’ll stand, chatting about the weather, both of us keenly aware of page 119. Yes, I wrote that scene. Yes, I know you know I wrote that scene and I know you know I know, you know?
So very awkward.
This can be such a stomach churning sensation in my imagination that all further writing dries up.
What if my parents read this? What if my friends read this? What if my co workers read this? What if my neighbours read this? What if my kids, when they are all grown up, read this? What about my in laws? My extended family? The students I’ve worked with over the years?
The bus driver? The contractor who put in our front door? My chiropractor? The dentist?
What will they think?
PANIC! PANIC! PANIC
In moments like these, I have to talk myself back into a better head space.
I have to tell myself:
- most people you know will not read your book, Regency mysteries not being their cup of tea
- most people you know will just be happy for you that you got published and reached your goal
- most people you know are polite, they won’t openly admit if they disliked it
- and if they disliked it, then they did, so what?
It’s easier to think of strangers reading my books. So sometimes I try take the personal element out of it.
Sometimes I channel my feelings into the book. Guess what, main character, you are about to experience a cringe inducing moment of vulnerability in front of your worst enemy…
Because, it’s true, fiction can be autobiographical, though not in the way most people think…
Like most things in life, here’s how you handle it: you take a deep breath, and keep on going as you were, right towards your goal, right on through.
Write even though you feel vulnerable. Write until you feel strong in your voice again. And if you feel vulnerable again, here’s the plan: